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Saturday, August 28, 2021

A curse in your family?

 When people suffer from long term physical, economical and relationship problems, majority of the times, it is because of their attitude to life and their current karmas. Instead of assessing one’s character and behaviour and bring about change, which is going to take a lot of patience, honesty and perseverance, it is much easier to attribute the misfortune to external factors. These are curse in the family and black magic.

What is a curse?

It can be defined as a solemn utterance in words or in the mind, intended to invoke a supernatural power to inflict harm or punishment on someone or something. It is any expressed wish that some form of adversity or misfortune will befall or attach to one or more persons, a place, or an object.

Coming to ancestral curse, according to The Gospel Coalition, a “generational curse describes the cumulative effect on a person of things that their ancestors did, believed, or practiced in the past, and a consequence of an ancestor’s actions, beliefs, and sins being passed down.” Our families’ history and baggage impacts us, whether we like it or not. You may consider your family a blessing, or consider them a burden because of the long history of negative traits they’ve passed down.

There are many examples of generational curse: death of several infants, series of accidents, unmarried children getting older in the family, and continuous physical problems

Illicit income

In our culture great importance is given to the food consumed. We know the importance of sattwik cooking, as the thought waves are generated by the food we eat. When we go deeper than that, the reason for much of the suffering becomes clear. The source of the income that is used to provide the food has a great impact on the family health and environment. In today’s time this fact is so commonly overlooked, because having illicit income has sort of become a norm.

In my childhood, there used to be whispers of somebody taking bribe and they used to be looked down upon. In my youth, I heard mother in laws talking proudly, “My son in law’s salary is Rs. -----, but he earns Rs. ----- over that every month. So my daughter will be happy, as she can have a lavish life.” This was about the bribe he was taking, and I used to wonder, “Really? She is going to be happy living on money received as bribe?”

But people are happy and enjoying with such money

I get to hear this over and over again from youngsters who are starting their life after completing their studies. Outwardly all those with huge money do look so happy, with all the pomp and show. For one, you really don’t know the inside stories, which are pathetic, and they are putting up a facade. Secondly, the Universe is very kind and lenient majority of the times. It gives a long rope, providing adequate time to mend one’s ways and live a dharmic life. But ultimately the noose tightens, and then there is no way out.

Over many decades I have been watching this worldly drama going on around. And in every single instance, the law of karma finally unfolded. We all know that the universal law of karma says – what you sow, so shall you reap. Only thing is no one knows the time frame. Depending on the good deeds the person did in the earlier years of this life or in past lives, it may manifest in a few years, or it may take 30 to 40 years.

So here, it is the curse from one’s own karma, not a familial curse or somebody’s black magic.

Curse from ancestors

In the current generation, there is a resistance from the youth to get married and settle down. The parents are still of the old way of thinking, and they want to finish off their duty of ‘marrying off’ their children. And when the children resist tooth and nail, this is attributed to ‘familial curse’ and there are people taking advantage of this opportunity to squeeze out money from the distressed parents in the name of conducting remedial measures.

Since I am a healer and many people approach me with this situation, I have given deep thought to it. The older generations considered it their duty to obey their parents. The current generation will question the parents and if they are not satisfied, they won’t obey blindly.

In this particular situation, the parents should evaluate their own married life. Was it loving and harmonious, so that the kids can look forward to such a life after marriage. If the non working mother has been ill treated by the father, she makes sure her daughters stand on their feet so that they don’t have to stay in a marriage for economic reasons. And once the daughter starts earning, she finds she can lead a life she wants, doing everything she likes to do, without tolerating tantrums from a spouse. She chooses not to marry since she has no faith in the institution of marriage.

I think in this case, there can be a possibility of a familial curse, even though I would consider it as a blessing from a great lady of the past. When that lady had spent her life time literally like a slave to her husband, looking after all his comforts, receiving no loving actions from him, instead, being slapped once in a while (yes, this happens in educated and even in octogenarian couples), her heart burns at the thought of future female generations and a blessing, ‘May the girls of my future generations be relieved from the chain of marriage” is released.

From the other gender too

It is not necessary that only ladies have influence on future generations. A man, on finding he has no compatibility with his wife, is forced to lead a miserable life because he cannot go for a separation due to familial pressure. Every waking moment his heart may be projecting a message that makes the future male progenies decide not to marry.

Is there a way out?

We can adopt one of the many approaches to maintain the peace and calm inside, irrespective of the experiences life throws at us

1.    -- Everything that happens with and around us, is only because of us, and us alone. Once we take up that responsibility, we will start looking for remedial measures and the Universe will steer us through correct path.

2.     -- There is a specific time for things to happen. Always remember, we cannot receive anything before time and beyond our luck (or destiny, which is generated from our past karmas).

3.     -- Believe the great saying of Lord Krishna, “You have right over the actions you do, but not on the fruits of those actions.”

4.     -- Finally, choose your friends wisely to have ‘Satsang’, or companionship of people who follow a virtuous life style.



References:

1.       https://www.allprodad.com/how-to-break-family-curses/#:~:text=It%20might%20even%20be%20something,referred%20to%20as%20family%20curses.

2.       https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Curse

3.       https://www.thesource.org/post/generational-curses-affect-my-love-life

4.       https://www.newindianexpress.com/lifestyle/spirituality/2019/jun/25/how-karma-views-blessings-and-curses-1994978.html

 


Saturday, August 07, 2021

Reiki healing request in Reiki groups.

Once you have been doing Reiki self healing for many years and have been witnessing miracles in your daily life, you develop unshakeable faith in the powers of Reiki. It not only provides direct physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, economic, and social healing, but also brings into our life whatever is needed for our well being and growth. For example, if one has to get a surgery done, Reiki will bring in the reference of a  good surgeon. If one is inclined to learn astrology, he/she will be provided with a very good teacher.

Role of Reiki groups

We being humans, with the passage of time, complacency sets in, and the importance of daily Reiki self healing gets forgotten. Some short cuts are sought, some days are missed, or we do not heal all the required points. This is detrimental to our well being. As I always say, it is equivalent to not brushing every single tooth in the mouth (me being a dentist J) daily.

When we interact with members of the Reiki group, it acts as an incentive to do our daily healing practice diligently. On hearing about the Reiki miracles happening, we get inspired.

Another great advantage of being in a group is getting Reiki healing from multiple people when one (or a family member/ close friend) needs healing for a problem encountered. Here, the effect is not 1+1=2, but 1+1=11. The effectiveness of Reiki healing from multiple sources is very strong. Apart from that, when we give Reiki to a family member, we are so much attached to the outcome and that comes in the way of the manifestation of the result. When the group members are sending Reiki, they are not clinging on to the results.

What is the energy exchange?

Reiki healing when given to somebody, there has to be an energy exchange so that the karmic debt is not carried over. In a Reiki group where all are Reiki channels, when one receives a healing from multiple people, it becomes that person’s obligation to give Reiki healing for the next five (at least) requests. If healing request is for a person in severe crisis, the group members can send healing for four days. Since a number of people are sending healing, it is very powerful.

We know that for acute problems 7 days healing is sufficient and 21 days healing is recommended for chronic problems. In these situations, it is better to approach a Reiki healer separately.

There are some important factors to be considered here. Let us have a look at them.

Daily self healing mandatory

When you have to give healing for someone else, it is very important to make sure that you are doing your daily self healing in the proper way. There are two aspects to this. One is, when you are trying to send healing, the energy will first replenish your own energy field. If you have not done your healing, most of the energy will remain with you, there will be much less to go to the other person. Secondly, I have witnessed some Reiki channels feeling drained out, or picking up symptoms (temporarily), if their self healing practice has not been optimal.

When should the energy be sent?

It is ideal to send the healing the moment one reads the request for healing. We may think of sending it later, but there are good chances of forgetting it. Reiki I channels do not have distance healing training, so they can just send prayers. Significance of prayers has been proven beyond doubt. When a Reiki channel sends prayer, it carries more power.

Is a comment necessary?

Once you have sent the healing, is it necessary to put a comment regarding that? My answer is a big YES. It gives an indication to the person that you have sent the healing and it is a morale booster. Apart from that, it has a strong placebo effect too. Look here to see how great a role placebo plays: https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-34572482

To me, it is a common courtesy to let the other person know when you have done something for them.